What Women Find Irresistible
A woman will not tell you what you need to do, for she will find you attractive.
Have you ever wondered why some men are just ‘natural’ when it comes to attracting women?
You know, the guys that always seem to have hot women hanging around them. Somehow, they seem to have figured out what women want. I bet it drives you crazy that these ‘regular ’ guys have hot women chasing them all the time. Well, I’ve got news for you buddy — they may seem regular to you but they are far from it. There’s a reason why women flock to them like a swarm of bees on a honey cone.
The question of what women want in guys is one that gets asked all the time. We sometimes think of women as very complex beings, but when you really get down to it, what women find attractive in men isn’t some sort of secret mystery. While every woman has different tastes and preferences when it comes to men, there are universal traits, characters and mannerisms that appeal to 99% of women on this planet.
A woman will not tell you what you need to do, for she will find you attractive.
Sorry, but it just doesn’t work that way. You need to figure this s**t out for yourself.
So, what makes these guys so special?
Stop Being Boring
If you want women to admire and adore you, you need to stop being boring! You have to be interesting to talk to and hang out with. You need to understand that the human brain craves intriguing and engaging people and things. Luckily, you’re in control of how interesting you are as a person.
So, what does being interesting actually mean?
It means having fascinating ideas and thoughts which stimulate engaging conversations. Don’t be afraid to be weird and show your unique insights about different topics. It means having interesting hobbies — and I’m not talking about binge-watching Netflix all weekend and drinking beer with your mates.
If you want to be an interesting person then you have to do A LOT of interesting things. Period.
Here are a few tips on how you can be a more interesting person:
Have exciting and interesting hobbies in your spare time.
Do more travelling to learn about different cultures and experiences.
Read books about things you’ve never considered learning about.
If you’re not into reading, then listen to podcasts about weird and wacky things.
Learn how to tell good stories (It takes lots of practice).
The Power of Unpredictability
Women desire men who show a certain level of unpredictability.
Why?
Because it makes them STOP and THINK.
It’s refreshing.
It creates intrigue.
It creates uncertainty.
Unpredictability raises the level of a chemical called dopamine in the bloodstream. Dopamine plays a critical role in attraction because its release is based on a reward feedback loop similar to what gamblers would experience.
You have to interact with women in a way that they find fascinating.
This means avoiding the usual conversations and asking the same old questions every guy asks her. There’s a whole neuroscience behind unpredictable behaviours and the effect they have on the brain circuit.
You must have the right amount of unpredictability without being mistaken for someone who’s got a serious personality disorder. Comprende?
It’s a fine and delicate balance — just enough unpredictability to drive her wild with anticipation, but not too much that you completely put her off.
How can you create this air of unpredictability that most women crave for?
It’s pretty simple.
Try some of these techniques with a girl you’ve just met or you’ve been on a few dates with:
Hot and cold (or push and pull) — sometimes act happy to see her, other times act a little indifferent. She’ll wonder what’s on your mind and be inclined to chase you, to find out why you’re “acting different”.
Non-committal — Show her you like her with your actions but deny your feelings for her for a while. If she asks you, “where is this going?” or “do you like me?” say things like, “we’ll see how it goes”, “I’m not sure yet” or “maybe” with a laugh.
Inconsistent texting frequency — vary the speed of the responses to her text messages. Sometimes reply straight away, other times after a few hours and occasionally the following day.
Being deliberately unavailable — Every now and then delay making plans to see her, until you “look at your calendar” to fit her into your schedule. Even if you have nothing on, act like you have other things to do. Being always at her beck and call is a complete turn off.
Be the first to end the conversation — It works like this: Have a really engaging conversation, make her laugh and just before the conversation dies, say you have to go. It’s a power move that will leave her wanting more.
The techniques described above only work if she ALREADY LIKES YOU because she finds you interesting in the first place.
Remember this: The less of a challenge you are, the more predictable you become and the less attraction she feels for you.
Charisma and Confidence
If you want to stand out amongst a sea of men, you need to be charismatic. Charisma can be defined as the ability to influence and charm people around you. Some people are born with it, but for many, it’s an acquired skill.
Charismatic men leave the women they’ve just met with positive and happy feelings after they spend time with them. Women don’t want to be around men who are always negative — it saps the life out of them. When talking to a woman, you must be genuinely interested in what she has to say rather than focusing on what you want to say next. Charismatic people are often confident or at least appear to be confident. Confidence creates an aura that draws women in like a magnet.
Confident men know what they want and they’re not afraid to go after it — women find this extremely attractive and sexy.
Women want to know what makes confident men so self-assured. The best way to appear confident, even though you’re not, is to fake it until you make it.
As you act, so you become. If you want to be confident, master the art of confident body language. You can also try to do at least one thing that scares you every day to build the confidence muscle.
The Funny Guy Gets The Girl
Marilyn Monroe once said: “If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything”, and it’s so true. Having a good sense of humour consistently ranks high as one of the most desired traits women look for in men.
In fact, being funny makes up for a lack of good looks for many women. Women also associate a good sense of humour with intelligence, which is sexy.
Having the ability to make a woman laugh is one of the most lethal weapons a man can use to seduce a woman, so brush up on those witty one-liners.
Ambition And Drive
Do you have personal career or financial goals?
If you don’t, then you can forget about attracting hot women. Most women want a guy with a plan and purpose. They want a guy who’s financially independent and has his sh*t together.
Women want to see that you have the drive and ambition to succeed and do better with your life.
I haven’t met a single woman that doesn’t think that financial security is important. She may be financially independent, but she also wants a partner she can build wealth with.
Emotional Security
Women are not attracted to guys who let their emotions control and direct them all the time. If you’re emotionally unstable, it means a woman can play on these emotions and have control over you.
The more emotional control a woman has over you, the less attraction she feels for you.
Managing your emotions requires practice and dedication. Regulating your emotions is beneficial for your personal, professional and romantic relationships. It’s also good for your mental health in general.
Final Thoughts
While some men possess all the traits and virtues mentioned in this post, most will have some but not all. You can start developing yourself as a person by working on one trait at a time until you master it. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but the sooner you start your self-improvement journey, the faster you’ll grow and become better with women.
